I always like to say that when the abnormal becomes the norm, the normal would be seen to be abnormal. Many have stood for a wrong course, simply because it’s the pattern in vogue.
Divorce is gradually becoming a norm and it isn’t good for our society. Many children who are products of divorce are posing as dangers to the society instead of blessings.
God hates divorce but not divorcee. However, this isn’t a license to divorce. God hates divorce because of what it does to the people (See, Malachi 2:16-17).
They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
Matthew 19:7-8 KJV
Moses allowed them a letter of divorce because of the wicked states of their heart.
At the time of Moses, God was building a physical people. But now, a spiritual one. The temple of bricks was holy and Israel was the Holy land but now, we are the temple of God and He has made us holy (1 Corinthians 6:19) – we are all spiritual Israelites.
The rate at which men of God are divorcing their wives today is appalling. By reason of divorce, many people become bitter and that does not, in any way, work the righteousness of God. However, this isn’t to encourage that you stay in an abusive marriage and die in it or continue a marriage that will not allow you live to your full potential and fulfil the will of God for your life.
The truth is: if we actually get it right from the beginning (as the beginning God intended), we wouldn’t even have a wrong marriage in the first place, because we all will be totally conformed to the Word and be led wholly by God’s Spirit.
In my conversation with someone, I was dazzled when he said, “If Pastor Chris could divorce his wife, then who am I?” For the records, He didn’t divorce his wife; she filed for it and he had to oblige her.
Everyone deserves to be happy. If a person claims to not find joy being with you and can only be happy without you, then it is a righteous thing to ensure their happiness.
If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.
Luke 14:26 KJV
Do you know that there are Christians who justify divorce, using this scripture as proof? Unfortunately, they are very much incorrect.
This scripture isn’t to justify divorce, but to help you get marriage rightly. Anyone who wants to be married must cling to his spouse above family. You can’t be attached to both and not have conflicting beliefs and ideologies.
Some persons, in their foolishness has allowed the devil penetrate their homes and causing them to get to a wrong resolve of divorce, instead of allowing the Holy Ghost guide them to focus and use marriage (God’s blessing of comfort) as a tool to achieving the will of God without hurting and destroying anyone.
Someone made mention of about four well-renowned Pastors who had been through divorce, alongside Peter who left his wife and family the very moment Jesus called him to the work of the ministry, and thought of it as a good reason to divorce spouses.
Well, Paul in 1 Corinthians 7 clarifies this:
The Passion Translation;
25 Now let me address the issue of singleness. I must confess, I have no command to give you that comes directly from the Lord. But let me share my thoughts on the matter, as coming from one who has experienced the mercy of the Lord to keep me faithful to him.
26 Because of the severe pressure we are in, I recommend you remain as you are.
27 If you are married, stay in the marriage. If you are single, don’t rush into marriage.
28 But if you do get married, you haven’t sinned. It’s just that I would want to spare you the problems you’ll face with the extra challenges of being married.
29 My friends, what I mean is this. The urgency of our times mean that from now on, those who have wives should live as though without them.
30 And those who weep should forget their tears. And those who rejoice will have no time to celebrate. And those who purchase items will have no time to enjoy them.
31 We are to live as those who live in the world system but are not absorbed by it, for the world as we know it is quickly passing away.
32 Because of this, we need to live as free from anxiety as possible. For a single man is focused on the things of the Lord and how he may please him.
33 But a married man is pulled in two directions, for he is concerned about both the things of God and the things of the world in order to please his wife.
34 And the single woman is focused on the things of the Lord so she can be holy both in body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the things of the world and how she may please her husband.
35 I am trying to help you and make things easier for you and not make things difficult, but so that you would have undistracted devotion, serving the Lord constantly with an undivided heart.”
1 Corinthians 7:25-35 TPT
Like the primary school debater will say, I hope that with these few points of mine, I have been able to drive the will of God to you on this subject. However, if it doesn’t make sense, then it’s because there’s a part of you that hasn’t fully ridded this world’s programming to embrace the renewed mind by the Word of God (Romans 12:2).
Just take a minute to ponder on how nice this world will be if the norm (according to God’s will) becomes the order of the day. Think!
Pastor Preston Idoro.